Almost all new adventures begin with excitement, optimism and drive.
You start out on fire. You’re amped up on life’s limitless possibilities. You could not be more pumped to start your new ________ (course, study, job, relationship, business, etc.)
This is your chance to start afresh, to learn about yourself and to explore the possibilities that life has to offer.
But then it gets hard, you start to feel weighed down and overwhelmed. Everything that began with enthusiasm and energy has now turned into a stressful mess. Your up has turned into your down.
Your drive is dead. Your doubt dominates your thoughts. You can’t help but think…
“Maybe this just isn’t for me?”
Have you heard that before?
I certainly have. This is just your mind and body giving you feedback, and although it may not feel so good right now, it has a purpose. So let me share with you how you can benefit from doubt and get back on purpose!
No. 1: Be aware…be very, very aware!
This, my friend is the first step to solving a-n-y problem. If you want to be the master of your life, you need to teach yourself to become a third party observer. Step out of yourself ‘so to speak’ and look at your situation as objectively as you can. To grow is to change perspectives. So ask yourself…
“What can I learn from my doubt?”
“How can this benefit me?”
Note that doubt is often cultivated due to unrealistic expectations, which breed fear. So check out my post on clearing the fear and doing it anyway!
No.2: Accept the unacceptable!
Don’t beat yourself up about your doubts, your fears or your failures. When you do, it perpetuate a cycle – you feed the feelings and feed the thoughts that feed the feelings, and so on…
Thank your magnificent mind for giving you the feedback you need to move forward and just go back to basics!
Access your ‘WHY’. What’s your purpose, mission, vision, value or service that is most important to you? Take a few deep breaths and just hold it in your mind’s eye.
Now accept where you’re at, it’s where you need to be because the truth is…
Everything that you’re going through is preparing you for what you asked for. – Billy Cox
No.3: Appreciate or depreciate
I mean this literally. When you don’t appreciate yourself you depreciate yourself or others. The wisest thing you can do is to look for a new strategy, a new behaviour a new thought and scrap what isn’t working for what is working. One of the wisest things I’ve ever heard is that “the measure of truth is effectiveness” – so let’s get real!
The reality is appreciation works, but I’m not just talking about ‘saying’ you appreciate something. I’m talking about the kind that completely shifts your paradigm because you now see how whatever was in your way is now on the way to your ultimate goal, mission, vision, value or dream. So ask yourself…
How is ________ (what is getting in the way) helping me fulfil ________ (your purpose or inspiration)?
Continue to answer this as many times as you can and really look for the answers because you will find them. List at least 15-30 answers and you will feel a shift within you – you’ll become inspired and keen to act. This works because as you relate two seemingly unrelated concepts or ideas, you connect new neural pathways in the brain and remove resistance.
Your brain is always trying to serve you, to get you closer to what’s most important to you, but if it doesn’t make the connections it’ll create resistance in the form of doubt, fear, and stress. So all you need to do is listen, be aware, accept what it’s telling you and appreciate. So don’t hesitate and take action now!
Also, I’d love to hear from you!
In the comments below let me know what drives you, what’s your ultimate goal or inspiration? Tell me what you’ve felt has gotten in your way in the past and share what you did to overcome this.
Remember to share it in as much detail and possible. Your story could be the one that inspires others to keep moving forward!
P.S. Know anyone who could benefit from this post? Please share it because you care!
Thanks you so much for reading!
With love and appreciation.